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You Are Enough

February 13, 2020

It’s a question that’s remained largely outside of my conscious awareness, lurking in the shadows of my shame, for years. What’s the question?

Am I enough?

Am I enough for my clients? Do I know enough? Am I smart enough? Do I have enough experience? Am I a good enough coach? Do I know what my client needs from me? Can I be that? Deliver that? Bring that?

These questions get triggered when I feel like I’m failing my client. When they are struggling and our sessions don’t seem to help. When I don’t know the questions to ask, the words to say, the feelings to express to help them feel better, move forward, see a new perspective, find their way.

Am I enough?

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Posted in: Coaching|Emotion: Sadness|Emotional Intelligence

Coaching: By Design or By Default?

February 12, 2020

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I’d rather listen to this than read it.

A number of years ago, I began to see a pattern in myself that I could no longer overlook.  Whenever I coached an older female client, I experienced an internal dialogue that was critical of them. YIKES! That’s a big f-ing deal!  

The foundation of my work as a coach is in seeing the hero in every client. My internal disparagements were infecting me and my client relationships and souring our results. Oh, I could always justify or explain away my criticism. “She’s being a victim.”  “She’s just wanting attention.” But when I looked at my default patterns and the results they created, it was clear. I was the problem.

Default Patterns

We all have patterns. Patterns of thinking, feeling, and wanting that reflect experiences from our past and how we’ve been shaped by them. Not metaphorically or figuratively shaped, but literally, neurobiologically shaped. Our brains, our minds and our bodies have been shaped by the events of our lives and the meaning we’ve made from them. And if we are not aware of it, we bring that pattern of being into our present moment experiences with our clients.

The perniciousness of these patterns is that they tend to be invisible to us. They are our “default settings.” They lie outside our conscious awareness. And because our patterns are largely hidden, we will tend to cling to, explain and defend them, even when they don’t serve us or our clients.

We will experience a given moment and believe that our internal reactions are reasonable and responsive to the unique situation at hand. And yet with help from reflection and self-examination, we can see that we’ve had many moments just like this one, with different people, in different circumstances, that yielded similar results. And we are the common denominator. (more…)

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FREE Podinar: Mindfulness Coaching: The New MBA – Mastering Being and Awareness

March 15, 2019

APRIL PODINAR: MINDFULNESS COACHING – THE NEW MBA – MASTERING BEING AND AWARENESS

Learning in Action’s Live Monthly Podinar Championing Transformative Change

FRI. APRIL 26, 2019. 800-9:00 am PT / 11:00-12:00 noon ET

MINDFULNESS COACHING:
with guest Dr. Steve Romano
Executive Coach, Managing Director of Olistica and the Center for Sustainable Leadership

Join Steve Romano and Alison Whitmire, president of Learning in Action, for discussion and Q&A around mindfulness coaching, and how a proven methodology for this expansive way of operating is critical for 21st century leaders and coaches.

This podinar (interactive podcast+webinar) will cover topics like these:
– What Being and Awareness is, and the outcomes or results they produce
– The 5 components of Being: breath, energy, investigate, navigate, generate.
– The Triple Loop Listening Model
– The Six-Point Transformational Coaching Model

You will leave with tools and new ideas of how you can use Mindfulness Coaching to help your coachees to experience a new level of leadership that leads to deeper, more transformative change.

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FREE Podinar: Coaching for Distributed Leadership / Developing Connected Leaders at All Levels Who Think Strategically

February 27, 2019

MARCH PODINAR: COACHING FOR DISTRIBUTED LEADERSHIP – DEVELOPING CONNECTED LEADERS AT ALL LEVELS WHO THINK STRATEGICALLY

Learning in Action’s Live Monthly Podinar for Executive Coaches

WED. MARCH 13, 2019. 11:00-12:00 noon PT / 2:00-3:00 pm ET

COACHING FOR DISTRIBUTED LEADERSHIP:
with guest Dr. Simon Western
Founder of the fields of Eco-Leadership & Analytic-Network Coaching, developing leaders who are connected and think strategically throughout organizations

Join Simon Western and Alison Whitmire, president of Learning in Action, for discussion and Q&A around coaching for distributed leadership, what it is, and how you can use it to more fully facilitate transformative change in others.

This podinar (interactive podcast+webinar) will cover topics like these:
– How leadership paradigms are changing
– How coaches must coach differently to it
– How and why to shift thinking from individual behaviorism to leaders as connectors in networks

You will leave with tools and new ideas of how you can use Analytic-Network Coaching to help your coachees to experience a new level of leadership that leads to deeper, more transformative change.

*** Ask your questions when you register or during the live event. We’ll get to as many as we can! ***

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DC IOC March Roundtable: Techniques for Reducing Stress and Pain for Coachees (and Coaches!) – with Bev Nerenberg

February 8, 2019

The most effective coaching session is when neither coach nor coachee are in a state of stress. But how do we get to a calm place, when we all live with, and experience, stressful situations wherever we go?

On March 1st, the DC Area Institute of Coaching presents a private lunch & learn workshop where you can learn a simple technique to immediately relieve stress for you and your coachees.

Join us for Techniques for Reducing Stress and Pain for Coachees (and Coaches!) presented by Bev Nerenberg.

  • Our coachees are under some degree of stress virtually all of the time, from a little to a LOT! – and so are we as coaches. As long as our coachees are in a triggered state, they are only so coachable. (And if we coaches are stressed, we carry that into the coaching space with our coachees). So how can we quickly and simply reduce stress for ourselves and our coachees? How can we do the work that can only be done in a non-triggered state?
  • Takeaways:
    • You will learn the basics of a technique called EFT Tapping and how and why it works.
    • You’ll experience its effectiveness directly and immediately for relief from distressing emotions and pains.
    • You’ll leave knowing how to perform it on yourself.
    • You’ll leave knowing how to introduce and teach it to your coachees.

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